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Giving your man a blow job

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You are giving someone something. You are offering an intimate part of your body — your mouth, your breath, your voice. Expert head queens are to be revered. These are people who truly, unabashedly love sucking dick. The rest of us regular people have to learn, and the only way to learn is to practice. These are tips and pointers that anyone of any gender can appreciate — 24 tips for giving amazing head. My name is Alexander Cheves, and I am known by friends in the kink and leather community as Beastly.

I am a sex-positive writer and blogger.

Like everything I write, the intent of this piece is to break down the stigmas surrounding the sex lives of gay men. Those who are sensitive to Giving your man a blow job discussions about sex are invited to click elsewhere, but consider this: For all others, enjoy the slideshow. And feel free to leave your own suggestions of sex and dating topics in the comments. Photo "Giving your man a blow job" Jon Dean. I love kissing and touching. This can be the most intimate part of sex.

Drawing out those early touches, those first stray hands, builds excitement and anticipation and confidence. Most everywhere men have insecurities about their penises — especially since we live in a world that fetishes and glorifies big ones, bigger than most men have. Also, most guys over a certain age struggle to stay very hard, and must of us take a while getting there. Let me say from firsthand experience: In my experience, the longer I draw out the preamble, the less pressure I feel to perform in the moment.

I tell everyone to maximize foreplay. I also have some issues with the term: Various bodily conditions render some unable to.

Start by touching him. I love rubbing shoulders, rubbing legs, easing his body into mine, and helping him relax — all well before my hands move to his crotch area. It is an old truth that the best head-givers are ones who move on a mission. His pleasure starts with me — I have to be having a good time in order for him to have a good time.

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Touch him everywhere except his intimate areas. Massage his dick through his pants for a little bit — gently so as not to cause any discomfort.

Make a show of pulling his dick out. Look at his dick first before you dive. The frenulum is the underside of the penis head, which for many men is the most sensitive part of the penis. I generally always start by kissing the tip of the penis — the head — then moving down to the underside with the tip of my tongue.

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This helps me get an idea of its size and texture and smell — the hottest part for me — and gives me time Giving your man a blow job build up some saliva. Flick it back and forth, up and down, slowly creeping your lips up over his head, then backing off. The heat from your mouth and your breath will make him throb with anticipation — practically begging you to slide it in your mouth.

Talking becomes irrelevant and clumsy — animal sounds, groans and roars, take over. Keep talking to a minimum. His dick will tell you what feels good. The same is true for oral sex. One talking exception is when he wants to be dominant — see number All sex is for your pleasure — even submissive sex in which someone takes over.

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Good sex is about doing what feels good for you, and for some people that means surrendering control. This is your chance to intimately enjoy his dick. In your mouth, you can feel every vein, texture, throb — all of it. So relish in the experience of it, and only go for as long as you want.

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A good blow job is as much about getting what you want as it is for him. Your mouth will dry out.

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