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Dating without the intent of getting married is like going to the grocery store


Lately, I have been getting a lot of questions regarding this topic. I am a young woman and yes someday I do want to get married to the right man for all the right reasons.

The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of the Godhead and to serve him. When I put a note down about writing this post, it was about me wanting to vent and wishing people would stop asking me when am I going to get married and so on It is too much pressure.

But, as I am writing this post, I realize I do not want people to stop asking me these questions. Yes I am young and have no idea what marriage is about — does anyone really? I want people meaning my family, friends, mentors, and church to keep asking, because it keeps me accountable for the actions I "Dating without the intent of getting married is like going to the grocery store" today. It is a constant reminder that I do not belong to myself — I belong to God and He has created someone for me that he knows can love me, grow me, and bring me closer to Him.

If I am called to a different purpose, then so be it too. Dating without intention — i. As a woman, I used to feel expecting a man who is dating me to have intentions of marriage towards me somewhere down the line was too demanding or a bit too forward thinking. For the first time, I had nothing tangible to say.

The truth dawned on me. I did not know why I was dating. If this person asked me to marry him in that moment, would I say yes? Would I be willing to marry that day?

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My answers were all resounding nos. These nos hitting me like soccer-punches in the gut. Nevertheless, I say all this to make the point that though I have no idea when I will get married, I am not completely averse to being asked these questions anymore. I am not seeking approval from anyone, but simply sating my own opinion and choices.

I love what marriage is all about at the core of it all. I love seeing my friends get engaged and married, because I know they are ready and are happy. Dating without the intent of getting married is like going to the grocery store with no money.

Dating without intention dating just to date is a very dangerous game — especially if both people have not consented to do so but if they plan that together then this is a better way.

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