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Some forums can only be seen by registered members. Hello everyone, I thank you in advance for the thoughtful reply you would leave. I'll try keep this short and sweet. I've been dating a guy for 6 months. We met online and clicked immediately, and soon decided to be exclusive. I'm in my mids and he's in his mids, despite the big age gap, we get along great, respect each other's opinions, make sacrifices for each other, try hard to make each other happy, and just overall enjoy each other's company to the fullest.
We now spend approximately half a week together. When we are physically together, I can honestly say that I am fulfilled and happy. I may not even have thought of this as a problem if hypothetically we live together. But when I'm alone, I think about us often and focus on the big picture, and rather unfortunately, I realized that some crucial elements from this relationship are missing.
What changes after six months of dating, he hasn't said the L word yet and I'm confused, because from time to time, I do get the vibe that he does love me from the way he looks at me and the way he takes cares of me.
Actually, that might not be an accurate statement. I asked him while we were on vacation around 3 month into our relationship if he loved me, he said he thought so.
Then I asked why he hasn't said the L word yet, he said he isn't ready and that saying the L word is a huge deal for him. He would only say it when he is absolutely certain that he is in love, and his definition of love is that he has to prioritize the other person's happiness above his own. Personally I
What changes after six months of dating his definition is a little bit strict, but I suppose I can understand He says that at the moment he's not concerned about whether we are in love, all he cares about is that we spend a lot of time together.
He claims that he'll be worried about the love issue when it doesn't happen after 2 years. He is happy in this relationship with very little complaints, and does not see us breaking What changes after six months of dating anytime soon or ever.
Another possible redflag is that he rarely talks about our future, he says he can see us moving in together soon but that's about it. But given that he isn't even sure he loves me, that's probably understandable.
Because of all of the above, at times I do feel quite insecure about the future of this relationship. I suppose I'd like to know if it is indeed too early to evaluate a relationship on that level.
I have a feeling that if love hasn't happened yet, it probably never will, considering that we already have a routine going on, thus lack of stimulus for any new sparks. I have talked about the L word issue with him times, and he doesn't have anything to offer besides "I'm not ready to say it", "I'm being honest" and "It's too early".
So much for keeping it short Thank you for reading. Every relationship is different, but if it's too early for him to say that, it's good that he shared that feeling with you. I think that saying "I love you" is just a phrase, and people get too hung up on it.
Six months is a very short time in a relationship, you're still getting to know each other. I certainly wouldn't be moving in "soon" with someone at that stage, especially if they're uncertain of their feelings not just the I love you words. Originally Posted by Liberty Originally Posted by Sweetlilac. It helps to gain some perspectives from an experienced source. Last edited by Liberty; at Six months, routine, lack of stimulus for any new sparks?
Good grief, that sort of thinking casts a pallor of gloom and doom over any serious relationship you may What changes after six months of dating have, Miss Cheerful! If you don't know how to keep the spark alive after six months of dating how on earth do you expect to keep it going in a marriage? As far as him telling you his thoughts about love, stop pushing him and trying to elicit an answer more favorable to you.
Talking about it three times was two too many. He's being perfectly honest with you which, if you read most of these threads, is an admirable trait.
Leave well alone and start reading up on how to keep a spark going.